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How to use a reward card?
How to use a reward chart?Temporarily use of a reward chart may well help to learn children new behavior or to unlearn bad behavior. The reward chart works as an additional incentive. For a child tangible reward stickers are often more attractive than a happy reaction from a parent. After a while, if the behavior is more natural for the child, the reward can be reduced and the positive reaction of .. Read more
My child says jokingly "stupid" "madman" "idiot" ... Is that bad?
That slowly creeps into it. Children hear the words regularly in the school and on television. Without them really understand what they say they use these words for fun. Just because it sounds funny or to tease each other. Once I say some about it and other times I just ignore it. The other time it bothers me even more because it is meant to tease. It seems very innocent and they know not what they say, but it feels good for me. Sometimes they even say to other adults "madman".
What I think is difficult about this behavior is that I they are curious how I'll react, they are looking for a response. So no matter how I do react, smile or get angry, they get their attention. Ignore it, then? Just ignore it, it does not seem a good solution to me. They need to understand what they say, and that you can hurt another with it. Explain the meaning is therefore important, I think. And there are social rules that people have agreed on, for instance: Never say those words to adults or people you do not know well, because that's brutal/rude. And people do not like naughty children, so they will get troubles saying these words. Other people become sad or angry because they think you'll find their really mad or a dumb. So if you use these words and another suffers from it, that's not kind of you.
Even against my three year old, I'm going to tell you this, although it is still difficult for her to understand. I believe the more often they hear something sooner they do so, and eventually understand.
So my plan to deal with this is:
Explain the significance and why another may suffer as they use these wordsIgnoring long as no one suffers fromCorrect if there is another person is suffering from itMy upbringing ultimate goal behind this is that I want to learn my children to take others into account. And I want them to learn how you you should behave in society.
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